Remember how easy it was to make friends when you were a kid? You'd pick a classmate to share some crayons with and before you knew it, you were buddies. Play dates were coordinated courtesy of your parentstransportation included.
Teenage years are filled with friendships easily made and some easily forgottenwhen you are feeling keen, sociable and energetic. Then there are engagements, marriage, relocation, career changes, families: life comes calling with its multiple demands, and friendships evolve as a result. I have been happy to see my friends move through these huge life moments, but as much as I value my friendships, I have found myself lonely at times.
Your job and other responsibilities may keep you busy as an adult, and it can be difficult to make friends when you aren't in a position to socialize every day. To make friends as an adult, the first thing you need to do is learn how to meet new people. After you've made a new acquaintance, you'll need to transform that relationship into a friendship.
I walked into the dark bar and looked around nervously. I was supposed to be meeting someone named Ava. It was my first time meeting up with someone from the BumbleBFF, the making-friends version of the dating app.
Like, just hop on your banana seat and ride your hot pink Huffy bike on over to the park and play with whoever was there. Ah, childhood. So simple.
Kids are friends due to circumstance. Making friends as an adult seems to be an issue for many. Many people are here away from their families.
Things were so much simpler when we were kids. We had no idea what A. And making friends was a cinch—you could find comrades of a similar age at school, or just hanging around the neighborhood.
Making friends as an adult can be a daunting task even though we have more to offer in friendship. Our days get busier as we take on greater responsibilities to family, work, trying to stay healthy, and many other things. But science disagrees.
It's akin to how salmon feel when swimming upstream. Trying to keep in touch with your buddies post-college, much less forging new friendships, is difficult, exhausting, and sometimes futile. An analysis of a whoppingpeople found that friend groups expand until about age 25, after which they shrink like a sweater in the dryer.
Things were so much easier when we were kids, including making friends. Back when saving for retirement and anti-aging creams were in the very distant future, maybe you didn't give much thought to chatting up your peers at the playground. But, now that socializing is probably at the bottom of your long list of priorities, you might be wondering how you'd even make friends as an adult in the first place, or why you should bother.